A student from years ago, now a wonderful friend, is fighting cancer. We were speaking by phone today and the topic of stress came up. I told her that the worst part for me of a stressful event is the dread on the backside of it -- wondering when it might return and whether it's entirely solved.
"I feel my feels in the moment," she said. I asked her to repeat it.
She told me that the goal, not always reached, is to experience things as they happen, then attempt to stop, and move to the next thing. Experience the feeling as it's occurring, and experience it fully. This helps the moving on.
If anyone should know, it's her.
In a more plebeian application, when you write, choose to finish. Resist the temptation to come back over and over without a limit on the number of edits -- because those edits soon become little more than second guesses.
In other words, feel your feels in the moment. Accept your work, then move along. You'll get more done, faster, and you'll come to feel more...
Fifty-five years ago this weekend the Beach Boys released their album Pet Sounds. At the time...
* It was the least popular album they had done.
* Its singles were less successful than what came before.
* Critics were lukewarm.
* Many fans decided the band's best days were behind them.
Yet Pet Sounds is now one of the most influential and beloved recordings ever made.
The writing tip?
First reactions aren't always deep or valuable.
Wanna be a great writer -- even in PR and business? After you know what your client wants, give them your own best take on it, even if it's not like what's come before. It's the only way any writer (or artist!) stands out from the crowd.
If you want to be a writer, you probably have these two ideas floating around your head.
First, you think of a writer as someone who gets paid to write down their clever thoughts in clever ways.
Second, you dwell more on how it feels to have written something than you do on how it feels sitting down to write.
There’s a lot of illusion in that. It also explains why so many talk about becoming a writer and so few end up in this business.
I post frequently about the fun things I write: stage plays, screenplays, fiction, comic essays, scripts, jokes, my neuroscience book. Unless you knew me first as a speechwriter, that’s probably what you think of when it comes to my writing. Yet most of what I write is nothing like that. It doesn’t even have my name on it: I’m talking about op-eds, speeches, public relations material, editing articles for publication, and, lately, writing entire books in collaboration with other people.
The truth is that professional writers...
It’s not enough to know your subject inside and out. Also knowing how to write well makes it easier to share what you know, and makes it more likely that people will understand you and take the action you want.
The details matter.
Check out today’s video.
The key to acquiring a big, new skill is setting tiny goals for every morning – doable, daily goals.
Commit to five minutes a day. Just five minutes! Do more if you want, but give yourself permission to stop after five, every time.
Then see what happens.
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